45. Best of 2024 Client Transformations

So I was reading a news article not long ago and it mentioned how everyone has a best of list for the year and it got me thinking that I should do my own version of a best of list! 

I decided to share with you 3 success stories of people that I have worked with this year.  These women's journeys have been inspiring, and I hope they'll resonate with you too.

So first is Jessica, and she came to me because she had grown increasingly unsatisfied in her marriage. She shared that her husband was wanting them to really consider having a second child, but she had actually been thinking that she wasn't even sure if she wanted to stay in the relationship. Their communication was ineffective at best, and she knew that she really had a lot to do with what was happening on her side because she had some anger issues and just struggles with controlling her emotions which was really impacting their relationship in big ways. Her husband was not open to doing couples therapy, so she reached out to me so she could work on herself and her relationship at the same time.

After working together for a couple of months, she was telling me how much better she feels and how when she's working on herself she knows that she has more good days.  She talked about how her emotion regulation had been better, their communication more effective and that her being able to manage herself better in difficult situations had a ripple affect on how her husband started handling himself during difficult situations. Now they don't fight as often, and when they do, they come together after much more quickly instead of holding onto the anger for hours after. 

The second person I wanted to highlight Valerie.  Valerie and I started working together because she was very overwhelmed with many things going on in her life including feeling frustrated with relationship with her son and also having a hard time navigating a very difficult situation with her husband. After we’d met just a few times she told me: “I’ve been speaking up more since we’ve been meeting and it feels good knowing I have some control over things I didn’t think I did before”

And lastly Grace, who started working with me because she was so overwhelmed and frustrated and couldn’t imagine continuing in her relationship the way it was.  She came to me complaining that she was carrying so much of the mental load in her relationship that she basically felt like her husband was another child she had to take care of. She didn’t want to divorce, but couldn't bear the thought of staying in the relationship as it was.

We worked together and eventually her husband was open to joining doing couples sessions as well.  Now she describes her relationship saying that her husband is not only more aware of what needs to be happening with the kids and the household in general, but also with her so she feels more cared for by him.  And it really has turned into this relationship that she not only feels good about for herself, but that she feels proud to model for her kids. This was a really big concern for her when she first came in to meet with me--how her and her husband were showing up as examples for their children.

So these are just three examples of different clients I have worked with and the awesome results they have gotten.  I love being able to help women navigate these difficult situations in ways that they feel more empowered to show up more genuinely in their relationships.

So now, I want to turn the spotlight on you,   As we approach the new year, which is often a time for reflection, I have two important questions for you to really think about:

First, what do you want for your relationship? Take a moment to really visualize what you want for your relationship... What does it look like? How does it feel? What kind of interactions do you have?

The second question is equally --and maybe more--important: what are you willing to do to make that change? Remember, transformation doesn't happen overnight, and it definitely doesn't happen without effort.

Are you ready to have those difficult conversations? To look inward and work on yourself? To seek help if you need it?

As I wrap up this post and this year, I want to leave you with this thought: Change is possible. Your relationship can be different. But it starts with you. You have the power to create a different kind of relationship if you aren't getting what you need to be happy in it now.  

Check out my website for free resources to help you in your relationship journey and if you’d like to learn how to work with me and remember: you deserve a relationship that makes you feel valued, respected, and deeply loved.